1. Slow Down and Quiet Your Mind – Whenever we become triggered, our thoughts begin to swirl and our brain goes into hyper drive. We must be mindful to take a pause, breathe deeply and quiet our mind so we are able to respond and not react to the source of the trigger.
In part 2 of this series, we introduced the concept of the MBC – Meaning Belief Cycle. This human phenomenon is a way in which we construct our beliefs, which are used as a reference for present moment evaluations. These evaluations concern what things mean to us as we make sense of people, places, things and events in our lives – past, present and future.
Once we have awareness of a dis-empowered shame or fear belief that is negatively impacting our lives and relationships, what can we do about it? First, we need a strategy that will recognize this MBC pattern, interrupt it and then replace with a new habit of evaluation. Next, and most important, we must make a conscious commitment to do the work necessary to ensure the greatest chance of success.
In part 1 of this series, we explored the three aspects for how we write the scripts for our “History Channel”. These include 1) the global meanings, 2) the actual language of the narrative and 3) the levels of emotional intensity of “key words and phrases” we use repeatedly. These three aspects combined have tremendous influence for how we develop our beliefs that become the heart and soul of our stories.
Beliefs are comprised of thoughts, emotions and behaviors that form our memories, neural pathways about our stories. The degree of priming and power associated to our beliefs are directly correlated to the intensity of our emotional experiences and the nature of the key words and phrases we use to describe our stories.
So, what’s your story? Much of what we know about history comes from the stories handed down throughout the generations. The art of storytelling is a way to help us relate to people, places and events. We also have our own stories we recite to others and ourselves in regards to our past, present and future.
We remember events from elementary, middle and high school, interactions with our parents, siblings and our first girl/boyfriend. We recall memories from college, dating, a marriage, a personal triumph and/or the birth of a child. Unfortunately, we also have stories of traumatic events whether within relationships like a divorce, the death of a loved one or accidents in life such as a fire or a car crash.