Charleston Marriage Counseling

Be Each Other’s
Best Friend during the Day, Lover at Night and Partner for Life

 

We work with married couples and committed partners who want to be educated and encouraged to explore the origin of how and why they got to where they are and then make the changes necessary to break any negative cycles in order to allow growth, healing and re-connection to occur.  

Types of couples we work with

  • One or both partners have one foot out the door; questioning the viability of the relationship
  • Thoughts and feelings of safety, certainty and trust have been damaged due to infidelity
  • The relationship is stagnant and feel like they are roommates, living parallel lives
  • Have a wonderful relationship and want to explore how to make it deeper and richer

Cycle of Conflict

  • Perpetuated and escalated by circular arguments and unsolvable problems
  • Increase in the frequency and intensity of NOTC - negativity, obstruction, turmoil and conflict
  • Use of favorite weapons of words, actions and behaviors to trigger and get back at the other

Characteristics of the Cycle

  • Couples will mentally, emotionally and spiritually flood each other and the bond begins to weaken
  • Couples develop negative perspectives of each other, the relationship and begin to lose hope
  • Confusion, disconnection and pain dominates the relationship

Golden Rule of FLOW

  • Couples caught in a cycle of conflict need to understand this rule.
  • When the space between the two is filled with fear and reactivity, love and safety cannot flourish
  • Each person must explore the origins of their own fearful thoughts and reactive emotions and behaviors

Goal

  • Teach couples the dynamic of Imago, how the cycle begins, perpetuates and escalates
  • Each partner takes ownership to learn, stretch, grow, change and SHOW UP for themselves and each other
  • Work together to create a relationship with the qualities of SAFE - synergy, acceptance, flexibility and empathy
  • Learn the critical techniques of:
    • Inner change
    • Monitoring and modifying reactive thoughts, emotions and behaviors
    • How to have safe, honest, peaceful and respectful discussions
    • Re-connect by not avoiding, developing a joint vision and spending quality time together
    • Learning their partners language of needs and being inspired to speak it everyday

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